About Me

Name: maan

Location: Philippines

i'm a total coffee addict. a hypomanic who runs and flips wild in the wards. has to constantly check on my schedule not because i forget things, but because i just obsessive-compulsively do so. i love singing and dancing so much, i just love having fun. and don't mess around with animals when i'm around, unless you want to be scalpeled down to your bones (just kiddin').

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A lot of people are getting married nowadays. And despite the fact that we're living in a modern society, and a lot of traditions have been discarded due to practicality, I think that etiquette must be always be remembered, especially in special occasions like this. For those who are planning to get married, here are some tips for organizing who pays for what for your wedding.

What should the brides family pay for?
hire of a venue, hotel or reception hall
caterers
drinks
the wedding cake
flowers for the ceremony, reception and bridesmaid's bouquets
car hire from the bride's home to the ceremony and from the ceremony to the reception (unless the grooms parents have offered to pay for all transportation)
ceremony music
printing and mailing of invitations
newspaper announcements
photography & videography

What should the grooms family pay for?
Traditionally the grooms family has not been involved in paying for any items relating to the wedding but in recent years it is certainly becoming a much more common practice for them to contribute

alcohol at reception
music and entertainment for the reception
could offer to pay for wedding car transport
pay for half the reception especially if half of the guests are on their side.

What should the groom pay for?
any church or ceremony location fees
the bride's wedding ring
the bride's bouquet
wedding gift for the bride
boutonniere flowers for himself and his entourage
marriage licence
transport from ceremony location to reception (at least or even all wedding car hire)
corsages for both mothers
gifts for all attendants, his the brides and flower girl & page boy if there are any

What should the bride pay for?
traditionally even the wedding gown was paid for by the brides parents but today, depending on the circumstances many brides choose to purchase their own gown.
she could offer to pay for half of the bridesmaid's dresses or for dressmaking costs, fabric costs and pay for any accessories.
the grooms wedding ring
a gift for the groom

What should the best man pay for?
Nothing - he is responsible for the rings on the day and before that he is usually the one to organise the grooms bachelor night. The cost of which should be shared by the grooms entourage.

What should the bridesmaids pay for?
It really depends on individual finances. It use to be that the bride paid for all the bridesmaids and maid of honour dresses and shoes, today however that cost is often shared. If the brides attendants do need to pay for their own dresses then the choice is also shared. The bridesmaids can then choose something they feel comfortable wearing after the wedding as well.
If the bride has a distinctive colour and style in mind and insists on the attendants wearing what she alone has chosen and it is something the bridesmaids are not likely to wear afterwards, she should also pay for the dresses.

I still miss my kuya Scorch. I don't know if I'll believe the Catholic teaching that animals don't have a soul. Only humans do, and that's what make us special in the eyes of God. It's just that it's so hard to imagine that these creatures of God who also walk the earth, share their lives with people around them, give love and care for both humans and their own kind of species, play their essential part in this circle of life, actually don't possess a soul. When they expire, they're just gone. They have the same capability of loving as much as humans do, and according to the church, they just go back to dirt when they die. It' so sad to think of it that way.

Life is so unpredictable. You just don't know when you're gonna leave this world, and how. My classmate, Ansel, just died of multiple infarct last Friday. It was such a shock for all of us. He even reported in our Med Ethics class and shared some insights to the class. Nobody had the least idea of what's gonna happen next. The next thing we knew, there's already a text brigade being passed around about his sudden death. I never liked him. In fact, I have always been irritated by him whenever we have a group work or project together. He had his way of doing things that just didn't fit in to how the group planned it. We never got along pretty well. But I was really saddened by his death. It's so painful to lose a classmate that way. Who would've thought that we would lose one classmate just 3 months before clerkship? I really feel sorry for his wife and son. May God be with them.